Our names are Scott and Krista Martin and we’ve been married for seven years. Recently, we were lucky enough to welcome twin boys, Sawyer and Henry, into our family. For three and half years we struggled with infertility and the desire to start a family. Infertility is a topic not typically talked about even though there are so many people struggling with it and continuing to ask themselves “Why? Why is it so hard for us?”. As we went through this trial in our life, our faith kept us moving forward. Whether it was attending monthly adoration night, prayer teams, encounter nights or mass during the week, we grew closer to God; He gave us a sense of peace. Not only did our relationship with God grow, our marriage grew even stronger than before.
After we got married seven years ago, we thought we had the perfect plan. We were going to grow as a couple and enjoy married life in our small rental house for a few years while saving up to build our forever home and start a family. Our plan was going smoothly – we saved up, built a house, and it was time to start a family. Well, as we learned and can joke about now, God was upstairs laughing at us. It took us a long time to realize and accept that we never really had a say in our plan. God had a plan for us all along.
We couldn’t see it then, but God’s plan was to build an unbreakable bond between us and Him before granting us our two miracles. Well He definitely did that and then some! It’s a common saying that if you can make it through building a house, you can make it through anything. Well, dealing with infertility pretty much takes the cake on building a house. There were times when we would question God and get angry with Him. We’d think “Why us? We’re responsible adults, why won’t You give us children? What kind of crazy plan do You have for us?!” There were also times when we would want to give up on trying to have kids. It was during all these times that we would always get some sort of sign to keep going. Whether it was something Father would say in that week’s homily, a social media posting, or an excerpt from our morning scripture reading, there was always something to keep us going and trusting in God’s plan for us.
During our journey, there were several times that we’d ask each other “What would we do if we didn’t have God and our faith to rely on? How would we get through this?”. We can confidently say now, that I don’t think we would have gotten through this without God and the several prayer warriors we had in our corner. We kept praying and relying on Him, and were eventually rewarded with two beautiful boys. Everything happens for a reason. Good things come to those who wait.
We know there are several others going through the same struggles we did. It can be difficult to keep your faith and not be angry with God during this time in your lives. The cross of infertility is a heavy one to carry, but you don’t have to carry it alone. Without our faith, we would never have been able to keep moving forward. If you are struggling with infertility, we are happy to help in any way we can and encourage you to trust God’s plan and ask Him to help carry your cross and walk beside you in this trial. God has a plan for all of us; we just have to have the strength and courage to trust Him.
Scott & Krista